%0 Journal Article %A Hindriks, Frank %T Ware liefde zonder uniciteit: goede redenen voor romantische liefde %D 2015 %J Algemeen Nederlands Tijdschrift voor Wijsbegeerte, %V 107 %N 1 %P 71-93 %@ 2352-1244 %R https://doi.org/10.5117/ANTW2015.1.HIND %K polyamory %K romantic love %K true love %K relation-dependent reasons %I Amsterdam University Press, %X Abstract True Love Without Uniqueness: Good Reasons for Romantic Love Love involves emotions, and emotions are things that happen to us. So how can love be true? Love can be true only if people can have reasons for loving someone. I explore the tension between these two thoughts and propose a way of resolving it. I argue that reasons for romantic love are not limited to the other person’s properties, not even when relational properties such as a common sense of humour are included. A full-blown romantic relation provides relation-dependent reasons that derive from the values that are realized within the relationship. These include trust, vulnerability and intimacy. True love is justified in part by such relation-dependent reasons. How this is consistent with the emotional dimension of love becomes clear once it is appreciated that people can have reasons for the emotions they experience. As this is not always recognized, the mystery of love is sometimes overrated. I end by discussing whether true love must be unique in the sense of being limited to one particular person. I argue that true love need not be combined with the norms of monogamy, but is consistent with those of polyamory. %U https://www.aup-online.com/content/journals/10.5117/ANTW2015.1.HIND